What's to come
you are allowed to grieve what was, while also having hope that just because the beautiful parts of the past cannot be repeated or replaced, that does not mean you cannot have a beautiful future that will be meaningful and special in its own way. You might not bond with this new person in the same way you did with someone else, but that friendship can still be beautiful. You might not feel the same familiarity in this new city that you felt in your last city, but you can still have a meaningful, adventurous life right here. You might not see how anything could ever compare to that night, that conversation, that relationship, or that season of life, but you can still find connection here in the present moment. Yes, the present moment will look different from the past, but perhaps, that can be a beautiful thing.
It is okay to say "I miss what was" while anticipating what is yet to come. You can acknowledge the good and the valuable lessons that came out of the past without dwelling on the past. You can open your heart to let someone in without thinking that it will be exactly like it was before. Not all people are the same. Not all cities are the same. Not all seasons of life are the same. You are not the same. You have grown and you are changing and you are allowed to experience beauty, love, goodness, and connection, no matter what yesterday looked like.
Morgan Harper Nichols
– Excerpt from the series “There is Room” in the iPhone app “Storyteller” by Morgan Harper Nichols