Your failures do not define you

I cannot tell you what will happen if you take the leap or not, but I can tell you no matter what happens, you will learn. I can tell you that no matter what, you are going to look back and see what you could have done differently, and how you can apply it to whatever comes next. There is no way of knowing if you are going to fail or not (by whatever your definition of failure is), but you can choose to believe that in the same way your worth is not defined by your successes, your failures do not define you either.

Your failures are a part of the story, but they are not the entire story, and they should never make you feel that you can’t take a step back and see the greater story that is unfolding. It is okay if every chapter and season of your life evokes different emotions, and leads to different lessons, because it’s not only your best moments that will teach you, but everything else that led up to it, too.

This is why it is so much more valuable to pursue wholeness over perfection. You will never be able to do things perfectly, but you will be able to do them honestly. Don't just look at the failures. Look at the whole picture.

Even when you are charging forth and you are doing what you love, there will still be moments where you struggle to see how it will all come together. But it is in those moments of struggle, where the fear of failing is hovering over your shoulders that you can choose to keep remember the whole picture. You can choose to create work that is honest and true. Even if it’s not your “best” work. Even if the end result looks nothing like you thought it would. It’s a part of the greater story of your life.

Failure is a part of the story, but it’s not the whole story. They are a part of a greater landscape that it might take a lifetime to see.

Your successes do not define you and neither do your failures, so be mindful of how much time you give to them. Gather lessons from the times you fell and see them as a part of the story you tell. See them as the way you grew in wisdom, and how it was all a part of the process of you becoming who you were meant to be.


Morgan Harper Nichols

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