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When it's so hard to make sense of it

For anyone grieving today:

Here are two poems I sent out today to those who are grieving the loss of their mothers:


As the days go on

it is hard to see how hope

could go on, too…

for even though

the Light pours through,

she meant so much to you,

and there is just no way of knowing

how things will look from here.

And I just hope you know

it is okay

to take this one breath at a time,

to reflect on the little things she liked,

and how she would be

so proud of you,

for after everything

you have been through,

you are carrying her strength within you

you are carrying her wisdom, hope, and courage

and you are free to tell that story.

It is so hard to make sense of this

but the beautiful thing is,

you do not have to,

you are free to slow down

in the uncertainty

and let endless grace

come find you.


unmerited favor

that meets you where you are,

even when the world feels lonelier

even with a broken heart,

in all that has changed,

you will be found, anyway

by grace-filled peace

that lets you take this

day by day.


For some time,

certain memories

might feel a little delicate,

difficult to hold close

because you know they will never

be again,

and I hope

that it is then,

amidst the heart ache,

you remember just how

special she is,

and how she had a way

of drawing the Light in

in the most unexpected ways.

And things will never be the same.

You know that all too well,

but I hope you are able to hold onto

the beautiful stories you have to tell.

For even though a year has passed,

somehow, Love did last,

and you are free to hold on

to what was,

though you do not know

what is to come.

And though

your memories

feel so delicate,

they are yours

to hold onto


they are a part of

what you had with her,

and what will always

bind you together.

When you whispered the words,

“I am going to be okay”

you did not know

what you were signing up for,

but you had this inner-knowing

that Light was drawing you in

even here, on this side of heaven,

where things would never be the same

but somehow, you would still find peace,

and you would find the air to breathe

in the wild of changing things.


And to my mom @mamamonaharper: Happy Birthday. You taught me what it means to be mindful of others who are grieving, even when celebrating. Grateful for your heart.