Embrace the journey
Lately, I have been receiving some messages about some of the topics I write being a bit too passive, or not really encouraging people to move forward or aim high enough. I do believe these messages come from well-meaning places, and I also believe context is important. I don’t share the stories of the people I wrote for but I do want to share this:
Many of the stories I write for are not for people who are on the other side of suffering, but are right in the middle of it.
I rely on nature metaphors instead of telling someone to actually go outside because this person submitted their story from a hospital bed.
I write “things will never be the same” because this person unexpectedly lost a loved one a few days ago.
I write “it’s not your fault” because this person is a victim who was made to feel like it was their fault.
I write “take the time you need” for the one sitting with a friend in hospice care.
I write “endless, boundless grace” because they did not go into detail, but wanted to be reminded grace was real in their life.
I share this as a reminder: there’s always something beneath the surface, a story and reason “why” for everything.
I do this because I love to write and connect with others, and I have always been inspired by stories, and daily, this project humbles me.
I used to try to write for everyone and every situation all at once, but now, I focus on writing for one person at a time. I’m not a counselor, and I am also writing for people whom I do not know personally, so I choose to be extra delicate with the words I share with them.
So if there’s ever a time where these words seem repetitive, passive or not encouraging enough to move forward, it’s not because I don’t believe in progressing, it’s because I am writing for that present moment, with the little information I have. I never know their whole story or what the exact solution is for what they’re going through, but I do believe it is possible to speak truth, with grace. To say what you mean, in a considerate way.
I don’t have this figured all out, and I am always open to being challenged because it helps me grow. I just wanted to take a little time to share this to give a little context for the nature of what I share here.
And finally, I’d like to add this. One of the things that keeps me going are the messages I feel so privileged to receive that say: “this speaks to exactly what I’m going through.” It’s messages like this that remind me why I do what I do. I don’t expect what I make to speak to everyone in the world, but if it helped one person feel heard, that means everything to me. So thank you. Thank to everyone who comments and messages me and shares these posts. You don’t have to do that at all, and yet you do. I consider it a privilege to share these things with you, and I so thankful to all who have challenged, encouraged, inspired, and humbled me in meaningful ways with your presence and your stories. Thank you. - Morgan